Hello all.. thank you to those who enjoy my blog. It pleases me that I can bring a bit of a smile to some and start conversation between others.
So, I was introduced to this term by a gentleman that I went on a date with and have decided to be friends with since our date. He explained to me that he had a fear of not being loved for himself but rather the wealth he has amassed. I fear that it has become a real issue for him and that he's not dating at all. In a conversation he referenced 'Leading with his wallet'. I believe that is exactly what he does. He doesn't allow a woman to get to know him before he throws money at the situation And since my education and profession, at this point, are in the human and social sciences; I employ that on my observations of responses to profiles... What do I notice...
Men who are certified millionaires have TONS of views and always have a max of winks received.
Yet another man, who isn't certified, but has a great profile hasn't more than 10 views. Really.. what makes one man 'better" than another.
Do these men, and women, actually believe that their income isn't a factor? And, truly, why would one become a certified millionaire here? I believe they are simply inviting the very problem that many men who are successful moan about.. they aren't loved for who they are but rather what they have. I have gone looking at profiles of those who are millionaires, self proclaimed or otherwise, and have found some that are outstanding. Raw, truthful sincere. I would love to respond, yet don't. Why? I think that they are inundated by so many emails and such.. a simple one like mine would be lost.
What say you, blogland????
Hello all.. thank you to those who enjoy my blog. It pleases me that I can bring a bit of a smile to some and start conversation between others.
So, I was introduced to this term by a gentleman that I went on a date with and have decided to be friends with since our date. He explained to me that he had a fear of not being loved for himself but rather the wealth he has amassed. I fear that it has become a real issue for him and that he's not dating at all. In a conversation he referenced 'Leading with his wallet'. I believe that is exactly what he does. He doesn't allow a woman to get to know him before he throws money at the situation And since my education and profession, at this point, are in the human and social sciences; I employ that on my observations of responses to profiles... What do I notice...
Men who are certified millionaires have TONS of views and always have a max of winks received.
Yet another man, who isn't certified, but has a great profile hasn't more than 10 views. Really.. what makes one man 'better" than another.
Do these men, and women, actually believe that their income isn't a factor? And, truly, why would one become a certified millionaire here? I believe they are simply inviting the very problem that many men who are successful moan about.. they aren't loved for who they are but rather what they have. I have gone looking at profiles of those who are millionaires, self proclaimed or otherwise, and have found some that are outstanding. Raw, truthful sincere. I would love to respond, yet don't. Why? I think that they are inundated by so many emails and such.. a simple one like mine would be lost.
I don't believe the topic's intent was to "bitch about rich people." La pondered what criteria do people value most when choosing their partner. Is money so powerful that it consumes a person's decision for happiness? Or is someone's overall substance and quality of their character more prudent? Where do people's value systems lie. At least that was my takeaway. It's a topic one could have here just as much as any other site regardless of the site's name and perception. Also, if you haven't already done so, you might want to read Michael’s What This Site is Truly About for some interesting thoughts that don’t necessarily involve money. Sass
Quoting lolokos
For all of you romantic-I don't care about money types: is it not the ultimate hypocrisy to come to a site called millionaire match and bitch about rich people and the "economics" of relationships. I am not disagreeing with the views, but they would make sense on a different website, on this website, it's just ranting...........
Quoting lolokos
For all of you romantic-I don't care about money types: is it not the ultimate hypocrisy to come to a site called millionaire match and bitch about rich people and the "economics" of relationships. I am not disagreeing with the views, but they would make sense on a different website, on this website, it's just ranting...........
I don't believe the topic's intent was to "bitch about rich people." La pondered what criteria do people value most when choosing their partner. Is money so powerful that it consumes a person's decision for happiness? Or is someone's overall substance and quality of their character more prudent? Where do people's value systems lie. At least that was my takeaway. It's a topic one could have here just as much as any other site regardless of the site's name and perception. Also, if you haven't already done so, you might want to read Michael’s What This Site is Truly About for some interesting thoughts that don’t necessarily involve money. Sass
For all of you romantic-I don't care about money types: is it not the ultimate hypocrisy to come to a site called millionaire match and bitch about rich people and the "economics" of relationships. I am not disagreeing with the views, but they would make sense on a different website, on this website, it's just ranting...........
For all of you romantic-I don't care about money types: is it not the ultimate hypocrisy to come to a site called millionaire match and bitch about rich people and the "economics" of relationships. I am not disagreeing with the views, but they would make sense on a different website, on this website, it's just ranting...........
That's precisely why I chose not to place a photo on my profile. I'm looking for somoeone I can connect with from the heart and soul. I appreicate the guy that's willing to chat with me without knowing what I look like. I normally reach out to those profiles without a photo, I can usally tell after a few conversations if there is a possibilty of a connection. If not, then I've met a friend. Even without a photo, I've received a number of winks and emails. Without sounding like I'm full of myself, if I were to post a photo, I believe that I would recieve more responses to my profile. I would much rather have fewer responses, and find my soulmate. Nothing ventured, nothing gained!
Good luck. I wish you success in finding Mr.Right!!!
Hi Jamie,
That's precisely why I chose not to place a photo on my profile. I'm looking for somoeone I can connect with from the heart and soul. I appreicate the guy that's willing to chat with me without knowing what I look like. I normally reach out to those profiles without a photo, I can usally tell after a few conversations if there is a possibilty of a connection. If not, then I've met a friend. Even without a photo, I've received a number of winks and emails. Without sounding like I'm full of myself, if I were to post a photo, I believe that I would recieve more responses to my profile. I would much rather have fewer responses, and find my soulmate. Nothing ventured, nothing gained!
Good luck. I wish you success in finding Mr.Right!!!
I'm new to the site, but what I look for when going through a profile is age, location, and if we have similar interests. I can care less about the occupation or the wallet. I'm perfectly capable of taking care of myself financially. Don't get me wrong, I would appreicate the generosity of that special man in my life, but what I want and need is someone that I can connect with both on a cerebral and physical level; someone with intergity, loving, honest, and a sense of humor! Nothing excites me more than open, honest, communication with the man I love, and who loves me. Physical beauty in a relationship has its place, but there is nothing more sexy (to me) than a connection from the heart and soul! That's why I chose not to display my photo immediately. I know, you're probably thinking she a dog, quite the contrary, I humbly consider myself a beautiful and desireable woman, a prize for one deserving man! If you're out there, check my profile and connect with me!
I'm new to the site, but what I look for when going through a profile is age, location, and if we have similar interests. I can care less about the occupation or the wallet. I'm perfectly capable of taking care of myself financially. Don't get me wrong, I would appreicate the generosity of that special man in my life, but what I want and need is someone that I can connect with both on a cerebral and physical level; someone with intergity, loving, honest, and a sense of humor! Nothing excites me more than open, honest, communication with the man I love, and who loves me. Physical beauty in a relationship has its place, but there is nothing more sexy (to me) than a connection from the heart and soul! That's why I chose not to display my photo immediately. I know, you're probably thinking she a dog, quite the contrary, I humbly consider myself a beautiful and desireable woman, a prize for one deserving man! If you're out there, check my profile and connect with me!
It may be very easy for you, but I can't say that it's easy for all. How many cases have we witnessed where a man has been run through the mill. As a woman, I can see it. You just KNOW that something is strange. I cannot imagine why a man would marry or take in a woman who doesn't care for anything more than what she can get.
Then that SAME guy, battered, goes back into the world and unwraps nasty for a decent woman like me.
It happens, more often than the men here would like to admit.
Michael,
It may be very easy for you, but I can't say that it's easy for all. How many cases have we witnessed where a man has been run through the mill. As a woman, I can see it. You just KNOW that something is strange. I cannot imagine why a man would marry or take in a woman who doesn't care for anything more than what she can get.
Then that SAME guy, battered, goes back into the world and unwraps nasty for a decent woman like me.
It happens, more often than the men here would like to admit.
I can't say I'm some kind of online dating Guru.. I read ALOT and I'm in a helping profession. What one needs to do is not have a thin skin. If someone doesn't reply to an email.. it doesn't have anything to do with me. I don't take it personally. You don't either. You have to also think of two things:
There are MANY women who are probably emailing the same guy that you are, and who knows what they are saying. It could be.. well..'nuff said there.
Some men are here, regardless of what they say, to find a bedmate, period. That isn't what you want, so if he's just looking for the flavor of the month, count yourself lucky he didn't try to put you on a cone.
And yes, I am a counselor by education and trade.. It will work.. stay positive. La~
Jamie,
I can't say I'm some kind of online dating Guru.. I read ALOT and I'm in a helping profession. What one needs to do is not have a thin skin. If someone doesn't reply to an email.. it doesn't have anything to do with me. I don't take it personally. You don't either. You have to also think of two things:
There are MANY women who are probably emailing the same guy that you are, and who knows what they are saying. It could be.. well..'nuff said there.
Some men are here, regardless of what they say, to find a bedmate, period. That isn't what you want, so if he's just looking for the flavor of the month, count yourself lucky he didn't try to put you on a cone.
And yes, I am a counselor by education and trade.. It will work.. stay positive. La~
Thank you for the wonderful comment. I think I just say what I feel and if someone doesn't care for it.. well don't read. I'm extraordinarily truthful. Someone would say that it's an Achilles heel but when I lay my head down on the pillow at night, I sleep VERY well.
I completely agree with you. It's really a crying shame about what people will do for money. But hey, there wouldn't be shows like Law & Order without it right??
I agree with you on the hard work. And with a thinking woman, like us, that can take various forms. I could work outside the home or do instructional design for another company or him. Mostly importantly, I need someone who is going to be a quarterback for the team. I've always said I can't quarterback, throw a hail mary pass down the field and get it in endzone.
Or.. like get the boat and row.. I couldn't seem to get my ex to realize that. If we are both rowing... wow! Anyway.. regardless of anyone that I meet on this site or another, if they aren't what I need (emotionally and physically) then adios. I have a career, child and beautiful home. I will sit in this house and watch the paint dry before I allow myself to be in a toxic relationship or be toxic for someone else.
Sass,
Thank you for the wonderful comment. I think I just say what I feel and if someone doesn't care for it.. well don't read. I'm extraordinarily truthful. Someone would say that it's an Achilles heel but when I lay my head down on the pillow at night, I sleep VERY well.
I completely agree with you. It's really a crying shame about what people will do for money. But hey, there wouldn't be shows like Law & Order without it right??
I agree with you on the hard work. And with a thinking woman, like us, that can take various forms. I could work outside the home or do instructional design for another company or him. Mostly importantly, I need someone who is going to be a quarterback for the team. I've always said I can't quarterback, throw a hail mary pass down the field and get it in endzone.
Or.. like get the boat and row.. I couldn't seem to get my ex to realize that. If we are both rowing... wow! Anyway.. regardless of anyone that I meet on this site or another, if they aren't what I need (emotionally and physically) then adios. I have a career, child and beautiful home. I will sit in this house and watch the paint dry before I allow myself to be in a toxic relationship or be toxic for someone else.
You are a breath of fresh air to the MM blogosphere and have really given me some food for thought with every entry...
Re: your topic...Unfortunately, I think there are some people who are more motivated by material things and may be willing to sacrifice their true happiness with someone they don't really care for, all for a few diamonds and furs..Seriously you can't take it with you..
I personally want a man like my dad..IMO one of the greatest men on the planet! So many memories of kindness with my father. I have been spoiled by him; not by material things, but by the effort he invested in bringing out the best in my brother and me (cheering us on in sports, helping us with homework, scolding us when we didn't act right, making sure we had a full life)... The way he is with my mom after 41 years is a sight to behold. He is still smitten with her and I love how they flirt with each other, talk through problems and help uplift each other in every way. Don't get me wrong, they have their he said/she said moments, which my brother and I have refereed. But what great role models for me to learn from :) I see in them a great love..That's what I want most importantly. Living well comes from working hard and that's something that me and my soulmate will do together...
Sass
LaNegrita:
You are a breath of fresh air to the MM blogosphere and have really given me some food for thought with every entry...
Re: your topic...Unfortunately, I think there are some people who are more motivated by material things and may be willing to sacrifice their true happiness with someone they don't really care for, all for a few diamonds and furs..Seriously you can't take it with you..
I personally want a man like my dad..IMO one of the greatest men on the planet! So many memories of kindness with my father. I have been spoiled by him; not by material things, but by the effort he invested in bringing out the best in my brother and me (cheering us on in sports, helping us with homework, scolding us when we didn't act right, making sure we had a full life)... The way he is with my mom after 41 years is a sight to behold. He is still smitten with her and I love how they flirt with each other, talk through problems and help uplift each other in every way. Don't get me wrong, they have their he said/she said moments, which my brother and I have refereed. But what great role models for me to learn from :) I see in them a great love..That's what I want most importantly. Living well comes from working hard and that's something that me and my soulmate will do together...
Personally, I believe the idea of sending in tax returns and bank statements to get certified is a lose-lose proposition. Do I really need to prove my net worth before you'll talk to me? Really? You've already done me a HUGE favor and for that I thank you. (And my wallet thanks you, the future divorce lawyer hates you, etc.) Plus, I stopped jumping through hoops a long time ago.
I was on another website recently where I listed my profession without stating my income. Also, no photo. I was immediately hit with emails and winks. The only nugget of information in that otherwise boring, faceless profile was my occupation. Hmmm. Lesson learned. So, from then on I became intentionally vague about what I do, net worth, etc. However, I will happily tell stories about my life that demonstrate specific QUALITIES or character traits. Admittedly, I'm still a little wary about being approached on a site like this.
Personally, I believe the idea of sending in tax returns and bank statements to get certified is a lose-lose proposition. Do I really need to prove my net worth before you'll talk to me? Really? You've already done me a HUGE favor and for that I thank you. (And my wallet thanks you, the future divorce lawyer hates you, etc.) Plus, I stopped jumping through hoops a long time ago.
I was on another website recently where I listed my profession without stating my income. Also, no photo. I was immediately hit with emails and winks. The only nugget of information in that otherwise boring, faceless profile was my occupation. Hmmm. Lesson learned. So, from then on I became intentionally vague about what I do, net worth, etc. However, I will happily tell stories about my life that demonstrate specific QUALITIES or character traits. Admittedly, I'm still a little wary about being approached on a site like this.
Hi La Negrita 12, So so true every word you typed is true, I too wonder why a millionare should have hes dollars on the profile. I am on this site to find my match someone who I can identify with, yes he needs to have some money and I mean by that that he is self sufficient and not a beggar. Yet most men dont even possess the politeness to reply and say thanks but no thanks they ask for your photo etc and one never hears from them again, that was before I had my photo on my profile. I do enjoy reading your blog keep it up. I am new in the "game" of dating clubs, so any info is helpfull to me.
Hi La Negrita 12, So so true every word you typed is true, I too wonder why a millionare should have hes dollars on the profile. I am on this site to find my match someone who I can identify with, yes he needs to have some money and I mean by that that he is self sufficient and not a beggar. Yet most men dont even possess the politeness to reply and say thanks but no thanks they ask for your photo etc and one never hears from them again, that was before I had my photo on my profile. I do enjoy reading your blog keep it up. I am new in the "game" of dating clubs, so any info is helpfull to me.
Truly, what kind of woman would determine whom she loves based on his tangible assets? Aren't character, communication skills, trust, attraction, chemistry, courtesy and the like the real currency of love?
Truly, what kind of woman would determine whom she loves based on his tangible assets? Aren't character, communication skills, trust, attraction, chemistry, courtesy and the like the real currency of love?
I always felt that if a person wants to be loved for what s/he is and not what has ammassed, there are very easy ways to the objective - unless a person believes (rightly or wrong, or for what reason, is another story) that only through what one has s/he can be appreciated.
We oftentimes say that a person ought to be judged not from what is outside but from what is within - this is a times a dreadly bet, for I see many persons who play with that line who are, too, excellent candidates to be rejected _precisely_ on account of what they are _within_.
A few persons have very little within - then they throw their riches in front of you because they know they haven't much more to offer - in fact it is a misconception that if you're rich, then you should have been an extraordinary person too because only a very talented person could allegedly or possibly be rich - but many wealthy persons are so by mere inheritance, other have founded their riches upon a crime (a well known line by the French writer Honore de Balzac, actually), and moreover the world has never been defined as that incredibly just and rightful place where the good is rewarded and the villain is punished - I'd rather say it has been defined at times as the contrary... so being rich demonstrates nothing most of the times, except that you happened to be in the right place at the right moment, or that you had an important financer who fueled your very mediocre idea with tons of money in ads.
We come at this joint at my idea that wealthy persons did not buy freedom with their money, but strangely enough most of them seem to have bought fear.
Christ said it would be easier for a camel to pass into a needle than for a rich to go to heaven (by forfeiting his/her riches). I don't know, for I am not rich so mine could well be plain envy. but one thing I know: too many perspons have been made by money, and too few have made the money. The former is common and worthless, the later rare and precious - in between you have many worthless and penniless and several excellent and penniless.
I don't know. I am inclined to believe that whenever they face me with either lines: 1) I want to be appreciated for what I am and not for what i have 2) I am not ashamed of having a huge fortune and live in luxury I'd dump both - the former for being a loser, the latter for being proud of being soul-less.
I always felt that if a person wants to be loved for what s/he is and not what has ammassed, there are very easy ways to the objective - unless a person believes (rightly or wrong, or for what reason, is another story) that only through what one has s/he can be appreciated.
We oftentimes say that a person ought to be judged not from what is outside but from what is within - this is a times a dreadly bet, for I see many persons who play with that line who are, too, excellent candidates to be rejected _precisely_ on account of what they are _within_.
A few persons have very little within - then they throw their riches in front of you because they know they haven't much more to offer - in fact it is a misconception that if you're rich, then you should have been an extraordinary person too because only a very talented person could allegedly or possibly be rich - but many wealthy persons are so by mere inheritance, other have founded their riches upon a crime (a well known line by the French writer Honore de Balzac, actually), and moreover the world has never been defined as that incredibly just and rightful place where the good is rewarded and the villain is punished - I'd rather say it has been defined at times as the contrary... so being rich demonstrates nothing most of the times, except that you happened to be in the right place at the right moment, or that you had an important financer who fueled your very mediocre idea with tons of money in ads.
We come at this joint at my idea that wealthy persons did not buy freedom with their money, but strangely enough most of them seem to have bought fear.
Christ said it would be easier for a camel to pass into a needle than for a rich to go to heaven (by forfeiting his/her riches). I don't know, for I am not rich so mine could well be plain envy. but one thing I know: too many perspons have been made by money, and too few have made the money. The former is common and worthless, the later rare and precious - in between you have many worthless and penniless and several excellent and penniless.
I don't know. I am inclined to believe that whenever they face me with either lines: 1) I want to be appreciated for what I am and not for what i have 2) I am not ashamed of having a huge fortune and live in luxury I'd dump both - the former for being a loser, the latter for being proud of being soul-less.
I would say you should contact him if you feel he has potential for being who you are looking for. Duh.:):):) If his profile indicates the depth you seek, then you must give him the benefit of the doubt. SEE if he can pick out YOUR depth. If you are what is looking for, I'd bet he can. The dozens of other emails he gets can probably be discarded as the detritus they are. You must assume that a man or woman who gets lots of winks or emails....knows how to weed through them effectively.
From my personal experience, I know I looked for depth, recent pics (yeah, I know):), intelligence, kindness and humor. Those who led with "looking for a generous man", 'bent over the deck railing' photos, were located-in-Europe-and-looking-for-a-way-here, were 25 and thought I was sexy (& me with no pics up!!),frequent misspellings and grammatical errors, etc., etc., were fairly easy to delete delete delete. (Unless those pics WERE great, then I'd look at them first, before deleting...Hey, I'm a guy, Whadya expect?)
And if he's shallow, looking for bimbos, and your message gets lost in the shuffle.... well, you're better off.:):)
I would say you should contact him if you feel he has potential for being who you are looking for. Duh.:):):) If his profile indicates the depth you seek, then you must give him the benefit of the doubt. SEE if he can pick out YOUR depth. If you are what is looking for, I'd bet he can. The dozens of other emails he gets can probably be discarded as the detritus they are. You must assume that a man or woman who gets lots of winks or emails....knows how to weed through them effectively.
From my personal experience, I know I looked for depth, recent pics (yeah, I know):), intelligence, kindness and humor. Those who led with "looking for a generous man", 'bent over the deck railing' photos, were located-in-Europe-and-looking-for-a-way-here, were 25 and thought I was sexy (& me with no pics up!!),frequent misspellings and grammatical errors, etc., etc., were fairly easy to delete delete delete. (Unless those pics WERE great, then I'd look at them first, before deleting...Hey, I'm a guy, Whadya expect?)
And if he's shallow, looking for bimbos, and your message gets lost in the shuffle.... well, you're better off.:):)
Couldnt agree with you more. I cannot believe a sight actually has come into exsitence for a typical class or group for that matter. one thing i can say is i am rather happy with my life and despite not having millions i am more occuppied and content with wondering how i am going to pay my course fees to enable me to do my masters, which i am sure i personally will get a lot of pleasure from.
Couldnt agree with you more. I cannot believe a sight actually has come into exsitence for a typical class or group for that matter. one thing i can say is i am rather happy with my life and despite not having millions i am more occuppied and content with wondering how i am going to pay my course fees to enable me to do my masters, which i am sure i personally will get a lot of pleasure from.
