We have all seen those annoying commercials about new medicines that have disclaimers that go on and on about how harmful it can be to your liver and you should be tested... and not to take if you have one of a hundred different symptoms... So why aren't there disclaimers for people who on internet dating sites? Shouldn't there be a standard of what "good kissing", "reliable", "passionate" and "adventerous" mean? It is obvious, these are code words for something completely different than what my Webster's dictionary says they should mean.
It's ok to make the package sound as good as it possibly can... but how about a little truth in advertising??
We have all seen those annoying commercials about new medicines that have disclaimers that go on and on about how harmful it can be to your liver and you should be tested... and not to take if you have one of a hundred different symptoms... So why aren't there disclaimers for people who on internet dating sites? Shouldn't there be a standard of what "good kissing", "reliable", "passionate" and "adventerous" mean? It is obvious, these are code words for something completely different than what my Webster's dictionary says they should mean.
It's ok to make the package sound as good as it possibly can... but how about a little truth in advertising??
PAT,,, ive met wwww and he is a pretty decent guy.....as long as you do everything he says, when he says it and how he says to do it.Like most men,
HE IS being truthful....he can sometimes find his way home ( hey its not his fault,,Houston has a bizarre road system and its always under construction
Quoting Curious2078
Hello, Search.... Welcome to the BLOGS. As for wwww12345--I know him well. Either ignore him completely--or take him with a huge grain of sea salt.....laugh at his jokes....he's really one of the most kind-hearted men on here. He means well only--despite what his posts sound like they mean. He's also so bloody brilliant that half the time none of us know what the hell he's talking about!!!! I have a question for you, though: Did someone actually say to you that there was something wrong with being passionate about cooking????????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Whoever that idiot was, I hope you metaphorically threw a full quart full of moldy, rotten garlic in his/her face!!!!!!!!!!! Who on earth could be so dumb except someone who thinks that MacDonald's is the height of haute cuisine.... Sweetie, when you're first on here, you're going to get a TON of scammers/trolls/jerks responding to you....just because you're new "meat." You've got to be very smart about sifting through their winks and emails....and very shrewd about whether you bother to respond to them or just delete them. any smammers you encounter--or suspect--report them to Counselor/Brittany. Once you get "wised up" to the creeps who hang around here, you can move on to the good people. There are many of us, to be sure. You may not find the love of your life on this site--but you will surely find some good friends indeed. And you'll know them when you "see" them. Best of luck to you, "Search." Pat
Quoting Curious2078
Hello, Search.... Welcome to the BLOGS. As for wwww12345--I know him well. Either ignore him completely--or take him with a huge grain of sea salt.....laugh at his jokes....he's really one of the most kind-hearted men on here. He means well only--despite what his posts sound like they mean. He's also so bloody brilliant that half the time none of us know what the hell he's talking about!!!! I have a question for you, though: Did someone actually say to you that there was something wrong with being passionate about cooking????????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Whoever that idiot was, I hope you metaphorically threw a full quart full of moldy, rotten garlic in his/her face!!!!!!!!!!! Who on earth could be so dumb except someone who thinks that MacDonald's is the height of haute cuisine.... Sweetie, when you're first on here, you're going to get a TON of scammers/trolls/jerks responding to you....just because you're new "meat." You've got to be very smart about sifting through their winks and emails....and very shrewd about whether you bother to respond to them or just delete them. any smammers you encounter--or suspect--report them to Counselor/Brittany. Once you get "wised up" to the creeps who hang around here, you can move on to the good people. There are many of us, to be sure. You may not find the love of your life on this site--but you will surely find some good friends indeed. And you'll know them when you "see" them. Best of luck to you, "Search." Pat
PAT,,, ive met wwww and he is a pretty decent guy.....as long as you do everything he says, when he says it and how he says to do it.Like most men,
HE IS being truthful....he can sometimes find his way home ( hey its not his fault,,Houston has a bizarre road system and its always under construction
That was sort of my point although not well delivered. Not everything that costs a pretty penny is worth it. Adopting a companion from an animal shelter versus a breeder is often more rewarding. Digging up weeds on CA and selling them in WI as flowers is certainly making the most out of what you can... Actually sounds like a pretty good idea!
That was sort of my point although not well delivered. Not everything that costs a pretty penny is worth it. Adopting a companion from an animal shelter versus a breeder is often more rewarding. Digging up weeds on CA and selling them in WI as flowers is certainly making the most out of what you can... Actually sounds like a pretty good idea!
That would apply more when purchasing a Rolex. I got Izabel from the Humane Society and she is a gem. I wasn't unhappy with the Potentillas (correct sp.) I didn't dig them up and throw them away. They were still pretty plants. I just wouldn't buy anymore knowing I could pick my own in CA. and probably get paid for the removal. Chalk it up to my entrepreneurial spirit.
Quoting searchmecf
I think the real lesson is... before you pay a handsome price for something of beauty, make sure you aren't really paying for a faux pau'd fashion statement!
Quoting searchmecf
I think the real lesson is... before you pay a handsome price for something of beauty, make sure you aren't really paying for a faux pau'd fashion statement!
That would apply more when purchasing a Rolex. I got Izabel from the Humane Society and she is a gem. I wasn't unhappy with the Potentillas (correct sp.) I didn't dig them up and throw them away. They were still pretty plants. I just wouldn't buy anymore knowing I could pick my own in CA. and probably get paid for the removal. Chalk it up to my entrepreneurial spirit.
I think the real lesson is... before you pay a handsome price for something of beauty, make sure you aren't really paying for a faux pau'd fashion statement!
I think the real lesson is... before you pay a handsome price for something of beauty, make sure you aren't really paying for a faux pau'd fashion statement!
But some weeds you are happy to have growing in your garden! :)
Touche!!! You are correct. Actually it's the other guys weed growing in my garden that I am really concerned about. Years ago when I owned a 2nd home on a lake in WI., I had a plant that was known in the area as a Potentella (sp.) growing as part of my landscape. They were a mainstay at most of the local nursuries and pretty expensive to purchase but required very little maintenance. They had very pretty yellow flowers. When visiting a friend in the San Francisco area I noticed that his yard was completely overgrown and right smack in the middle was this beautiful and very large potentella. I said: "Why don't you get someone to clear this place out. You have some really nice plants here but you can't see them because of all the weeds." He started laughing and told me that the Potentella was nothing but a big pesky weed. He said. "Look at the medians on the Freeways. They are growing wild all over the place. We can't get rid of them." Needless to say once I returned home I never bought another Potentella. LOL...
Quoting searchmecf
But some weeds you are happy to have growing in your garden! :)
Touche!!! You are correct. Actually it's the other guys weed growing in my garden that I am really concerned about. Years ago when I owned a 2nd home on a lake in WI., I had a plant that was known in the area as a Potentella (sp.) growing as part of my landscape. They were a mainstay at most of the local nursuries and pretty expensive to purchase but required very little maintenance. They had very pretty yellow flowers. When visiting a friend in the San Francisco area I noticed that his yard was completely overgrown and right smack in the middle was this beautiful and very large potentella. I said: "Why don't you get someone to clear this place out. You have some really nice plants here but you can't see them because of all the weeds." He started laughing and told me that the Potentella was nothing but a big pesky weed. He said. "Look at the medians on the Freeways. They are growing wild all over the place. We can't get rid of them." Needless to say once I returned home I never bought another Potentella. LOL...
""It would be refreshing to have more optimism than wariness... to be able to believe the person before you (in actuality or flat screen) is truthful and worthy of immediate trust without fear of hurt or insult. Alas, I'm still in search of that someone who balances the attributes of sincerity with mischievousness; sexuality and couth; intellectual understanding and common sense; candid yet meticulous with word. "" That would be nice... Unfortunately interpreting those values is very subjective. One persons weed is another persons flower...
""It would be refreshing to have more optimism than wariness... to be able to believe the person before you (in actuality or flat screen) is truthful and worthy of immediate trust without fear of hurt or insult. Alas, I'm still in search of that someone who balances the attributes of sincerity with mischievousness; sexuality and couth; intellectual understanding and common sense; candid yet meticulous with word. "" That would be nice... Unfortunately interpreting those values is very subjective. One persons weed is another persons flower...
Be careful CG... that almost sounded like a compliment. I don’t take Timberoo’s statement personally in a negative content; although I did actually tell him I had come to the conclusion I did not feel an interest in him romantically simply from his profile.Granted, I would not have done so in a public forum unlike his response to me, but nonetheless it was a truthful statement on his part.So… I’m not thick skinned.I’m humbly acknowledging his reaction to my hasty conclusion. I know decent people exist but why do they have to be so few and far between? I think everyone here has been scammed, lied to, insulted and dumped... and yet we are all still here. We hold to the glimmer of hope that good wins over evil and to the victor will go the spoils of love's rewards. I appreciate the views and values of others, even the pompous and uneducated. (not referencing you or Timberoo of course). One's perspective is simply a horse with blinders. "Learn from the mistakes of others for you can not possibly live long enough to make them all yourself". We should open ourselves to ideas, possibilities and potential and we should open ourselves more so when they come from someone else. BUT... what would it be like if people were more honest? People looking for just sex stated their intent or desire… People looking for friends with benefits or even true love, advertise what their heart (or other body organs) desire the most. People want what they want but they are intimidated by what others think about them... why be intimated when you should reel in your own discernment. I am not skeptical enough to think everyone is dishonest or even that the majority falls that way but I am realistic enough to be wary of false truth. It would be refreshing to have more optimism than wariness... to be able to believe the person before you (in actuality or flat screen) is truthful and worthy of immediate trust without fear of hurt or insult. Alas, I'm still in search of that someone who balances the attributes of sincerity with mischievousness; sexuality and couth; intellectual understanding and common sense; candid yet meticulous with word. Should you come across such a man... please send him my way. :)
Be careful CG... that almost sounded like a compliment. I don’t take Timberoo’s statement personally in a negative content; although I did actually tell him I had come to the conclusion I did not feel an interest in him romantically simply from his profile.Granted, I would not have done so in a public forum unlike his response to me, but nonetheless it was a truthful statement on his part.So… I’m not thick skinned.I’m humbly acknowledging his reaction to my hasty conclusion. I know decent people exist but why do they have to be so few and far between? I think everyone here has been scammed, lied to, insulted and dumped... and yet we are all still here. We hold to the glimmer of hope that good wins over evil and to the victor will go the spoils of love's rewards. I appreciate the views and values of others, even the pompous and uneducated. (not referencing you or Timberoo of course). One's perspective is simply a horse with blinders. "Learn from the mistakes of others for you can not possibly live long enough to make them all yourself". We should open ourselves to ideas, possibilities and potential and we should open ourselves more so when they come from someone else. BUT... what would it be like if people were more honest? People looking for just sex stated their intent or desire… People looking for friends with benefits or even true love, advertise what their heart (or other body organs) desire the most. People want what they want but they are intimidated by what others think about them... why be intimated when you should reel in your own discernment. I am not skeptical enough to think everyone is dishonest or even that the majority falls that way but I am realistic enough to be wary of false truth. It would be refreshing to have more optimism than wariness... to be able to believe the person before you (in actuality or flat screen) is truthful and worthy of immediate trust without fear of hurt or insult. Alas, I'm still in search of that someone who balances the attributes of sincerity with mischievousness; sexuality and couth; intellectual understanding and common sense; candid yet meticulous with word. Should you come across such a man... please send him my way. :)
Yes, I KNOW there are some decent people on here, because I have "met" some online, and I have met some in person. I've also been scammed, lied to, insulted and dumped........in short, all the same stuff that can happen in the real world.
But if you have an inquiring soul, how can you NOT cherish the opportunities this medium gives us to meet new, great folks??? I saw a new blogger in the last couple of days that really seemed to have her act together, as far as life values, and wasn't afraid to share them. Those are the type people you just know you'd like.....whether you were each other's 'type' romantically, or not.
And you, Searcher, instead of recoiling from Timberoo's comments, you acknowledged his right to make them, instead of attacking him for doing so. That's just good manners, and always so refreshing. You have to be a little thick skinned (that's how I knew Dubs wouldn't take offense, and how Bill knew it was OK to keep piling on him):):) but just keep the good, and let the bad go right out the flush hole where they belong. Each will find its level.
CG
Quoting searchmecf
CG... you are too funny! I suppose it sounds hypocritical to some extent. I'm not saying you can get that magical feeling or connection about someone just from a one dimentional computer screen or a few well chosen words. There was a profile earlier by a married man and he clearly said he was here looking around for an "activity partner" Women were blasting the poor guy. I don't condone cheating on a spouse but at least he was honest about what he wanted and where he was in life. So if a woman wanted to respond, then she knows what she is getting in to. I'm jaded by the men (and women) who say they want someone sensual and what they really want is no commitment, phone sex and one or even two night stands. You would also gather logically that being behind a computer screen, someone would be more comfortable with speaking (or writing) their true thoughts and feelings without the fear of a face to face rejection. I find it opens more of an opportunity for the opposite to happen. People hide behind the screen because their falsehoods would be obvious in a one on one. Lastly... TRUST ME... I know this place is locked and loaded with spam and scam. It's about using your common sense. I also know there are decent people out here. Isn't that right, CG?
Quoting searchmecf
CG... you are too funny! I suppose it sounds hypocritical to some extent. I'm not saying you can get that magical feeling or connection about someone just from a one dimentional computer screen or a few well chosen words. There was a profile earlier by a married man and he clearly said he was here looking around for an "activity partner" Women were blasting the poor guy. I don't condone cheating on a spouse but at least he was honest about what he wanted and where he was in life. So if a woman wanted to respond, then she knows what she is getting in to. I'm jaded by the men (and women) who say they want someone sensual and what they really want is no commitment, phone sex and one or even two night stands. You would also gather logically that being behind a computer screen, someone would be more comfortable with speaking (or writing) their true thoughts and feelings without the fear of a face to face rejection. I find it opens more of an opportunity for the opposite to happen. People hide behind the screen because their falsehoods would be obvious in a one on one. Lastly... TRUST ME... I know this place is locked and loaded with spam and scam. It's about using your common sense. I also know there are decent people out here. Isn't that right, CG?
Yes, I KNOW there are some decent people on here, because I have "met" some online, and I have met some in person. I've also been scammed, lied to, insulted and dumped........in short, all the same stuff that can happen in the real world.
But if you have an inquiring soul, how can you NOT cherish the opportunities this medium gives us to meet new, great folks??? I saw a new blogger in the last couple of days that really seemed to have her act together, as far as life values, and wasn't afraid to share them. Those are the type people you just know you'd like.....whether you were each other's 'type' romantically, or not.
And you, Searcher, instead of recoiling from Timberoo's comments, you acknowledged his right to make them, instead of attacking him for doing so. That's just good manners, and always so refreshing. You have to be a little thick skinned (that's how I knew Dubs wouldn't take offense, and how Bill knew it was OK to keep piling on him):):) but just keep the good, and let the bad go right out the flush hole where they belong. Each will find its level.
There is absolutely no harm in communication. So the picture doesn't strike your fancy that does not mean you shouldn't talk with someone. I never implied that was the proper course of action. As a matter of fact I have contacted many people. some were kind enough to respond to my efforts, and the "No thanks", "not interested" or "seeing someone" (lie or not) is better than silence from no reply at all and any response is greatly appreciated. Return the efforts of others with kindness. You sound a little Jaded yoruself Timberoo... i believe everything happens for a reason and we should walk the paths of choice with purpose. I may have passed by a good or even great "catch" but if that is the case, it was obviously not for me or the stars would have aligned and fate would have lent a hand. Keep this in mind... you are a great catch for someone, this I have no doubt although it will not be me...and you have been a wonderful correspondent to which I hope to continue.
There is absolutely no harm in communication. So the picture doesn't strike your fancy that does not mean you shouldn't talk with someone. I never implied that was the proper course of action. As a matter of fact I have contacted many people. some were kind enough to respond to my efforts, and the "No thanks", "not interested" or "seeing someone" (lie or not) is better than silence from no reply at all and any response is greatly appreciated. Return the efforts of others with kindness. You sound a little Jaded yoruself Timberoo... i believe everything happens for a reason and we should walk the paths of choice with purpose. I may have passed by a good or even great "catch" but if that is the case, it was obviously not for me or the stars would have aligned and fate would have lent a hand. Keep this in mind... you are a great catch for someone, this I have no doubt although it will not be me...and you have been a wonderful correspondent to which I hope to continue.
CG... you are too funny! I suppose it sounds hypocritical to some extent. I'm not saying you can get that magical feeling or connection about someone just from a one dimentional computer screen or a few well chosen words. There was a profile earlier by a married man and he clearly said he was here looking around for an "activity partner" Women were blasting the poor guy. I don't condone cheating on a spouse but at least he was honest about what he wanted and where he was in life. So if a woman wanted to respond, then she knows what she is getting in to. I'm jaded by the men (and women) who say they want someone sensual and what they really want is no commitment, phone sex and one or even two night stands. You would also gather logically that being behind a computer screen, someone would be more comfortable with speaking (or writing) their true thoughts and feelings without the fear of a face to face rejection. I find it opens more of an opportunity for the opposite to happen. People hide behind the screen because their falsehoods would be obvious in a one on one. Lastly... TRUST ME... I know this place is locked and loaded with spam and scam. It's about using your common sense. I also know there are decent people out here. Isn't that right, CG?
CG... you are too funny! I suppose it sounds hypocritical to some extent. I'm not saying you can get that magical feeling or connection about someone just from a one dimentional computer screen or a few well chosen words. There was a profile earlier by a married man and he clearly said he was here looking around for an "activity partner" Women were blasting the poor guy. I don't condone cheating on a spouse but at least he was honest about what he wanted and where he was in life. So if a woman wanted to respond, then she knows what she is getting in to. I'm jaded by the men (and women) who say they want someone sensual and what they really want is no commitment, phone sex and one or even two night stands. You would also gather logically that being behind a computer screen, someone would be more comfortable with speaking (or writing) their true thoughts and feelings without the fear of a face to face rejection. I find it opens more of an opportunity for the opposite to happen. People hide behind the screen because their falsehoods would be obvious in a one on one. Lastly... TRUST ME... I know this place is locked and loaded with spam and scam. It's about using your common sense. I also know there are decent people out here. Isn't that right, CG?
"""I suppose you want me to admit that I kiss so horribly that you would be better off kissing your windshield.""" Thanks 5W's. No wonder my wind shield always appears to be smudged. All this time I have been blaming it on a leaky heater core. Live and learn...
"""I suppose you want me to admit that I kiss so horribly that you would be better off kissing your windshield.""" Thanks 5W's. No wonder my wind shield always appears to be smudged. All this time I have been blaming it on a leaky heater core. Live and learn...
Hello, Search.... Welcome to the BLOGS. As for wwww12345--I know him well. Either ignore him completely--or take him with a huge grain of sea salt.....laugh at his jokes....he's really one of the most kind-hearted men on here. He means well only--despite what his posts sound like they mean. He's also so bloody brilliant that half the time none of us know what the hell he's talking about!!!! I have a question for you, though: Did someone actually say to you that there was something wrong with being passionate about cooking????????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Whoever that idiot was, I hope you metaphorically threw a full quart full of moldy, rotten garlic in his/her face!!!!!!!!!!! Who on earth could be so dumb except someone who thinks that MacDonald's is the height of haute cuisine.... Sweetie, when you're first on here, you're going to get a TON of scammers/trolls/jerks responding to you....just because you're new "meat." You've got to be very smart about sifting through their winks and emails....and very shrewd about whether you bother to respond to them or just delete them. any smammers you encounter--or suspect--report them to Counselor/Brittany. Once you get "wised up" to the creeps who hang around here, you can move on to the good people. There are many of us, to be sure. You may not find the love of your life on this site--but you will surely find some good friends indeed. And you'll know them when you "see" them. Best of luck to you, "Search." Pat
Hello, Search.... Welcome to the BLOGS. As for wwww12345--I know him well. Either ignore him completely--or take him with a huge grain of sea salt.....laugh at his jokes....he's really one of the most kind-hearted men on here. He means well only--despite what his posts sound like they mean. He's also so bloody brilliant that half the time none of us know what the hell he's talking about!!!! I have a question for you, though: Did someone actually say to you that there was something wrong with being passionate about cooking????????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Whoever that idiot was, I hope you metaphorically threw a full quart full of moldy, rotten garlic in his/her face!!!!!!!!!!! Who on earth could be so dumb except someone who thinks that MacDonald's is the height of haute cuisine.... Sweetie, when you're first on here, you're going to get a TON of scammers/trolls/jerks responding to you....just because you're new "meat." You've got to be very smart about sifting through their winks and emails....and very shrewd about whether you bother to respond to them or just delete them. any smammers you encounter--or suspect--report them to Counselor/Brittany. Once you get "wised up" to the creeps who hang around here, you can move on to the good people. There are many of us, to be sure. You may not find the love of your life on this site--but you will surely find some good friends indeed. And you'll know them when you "see" them. Best of luck to you, "Search." Pat
Honey, you aren't in a clothing store where you can see the details of a design in just a glimpse of the eyes, and even then you have to try it to be convinced that it really matches with your personality. More options could mean even more convincing lies, so you should better rely on your 7th sense instead of trusting the "cut and slim" profiles, in general of course, no offence intended.
Honey, you aren't in a clothing store where you can see the details of a design in just a glimpse of the eyes, and even then you have to try it to be convinced that it really matches with your personality. More options could mean even more convincing lies, so you should better rely on your 7th sense instead of trusting the "cut and slim" profiles, in general of course, no offence intended.
There is a difference between embellishment and lie. And yes, truth is what I"m looking for... No body is truly a horrible kisser, Fact is, everyone has a different style. A good kisser may not necessarily enjoy kissing so if you are looking for someone to suck face with you for 2 hours, well you can say that with etiquite and clarity. It's not the picture but let's be honest about ourselves. I'm a very nice looking woman. I know this, people who meet me know this but I take terrible pictures. SAd part is, people judge by your picture. Aggrivation comes from the men and woman who list themselves as "hot" or "very good looking" and either their basketball bellies won't fit all the way under their shirts or they look like something from an episode of Cops. Granted, everyone's idea of hot is different but there should be a general standard. What's wrong with being passionate about cooking? Or that you are shy and like to discreetly glance over beautiful woman and fantasize? Absolutely nothing! So what's so wrong with being honest? If you are truly here to find someone to spend the rest of your life with, you don't think this person will eventually find out these things? I'm not saying list all your bad attributes, I'm just saying don't lie about them. Be positive and creative... And yes, I can handle the truth!
There is a difference between embellishment and lie. And yes, truth is what I"m looking for... No body is truly a horrible kisser, Fact is, everyone has a different style. A good kisser may not necessarily enjoy kissing so if you are looking for someone to suck face with you for 2 hours, well you can say that with etiquite and clarity. It's not the picture but let's be honest about ourselves. I'm a very nice looking woman. I know this, people who meet me know this but I take terrible pictures. SAd part is, people judge by your picture. Aggrivation comes from the men and woman who list themselves as "hot" or "very good looking" and either their basketball bellies won't fit all the way under their shirts or they look like something from an episode of Cops. Granted, everyone's idea of hot is different but there should be a general standard. What's wrong with being passionate about cooking? Or that you are shy and like to discreetly glance over beautiful woman and fantasize? Absolutely nothing! So what's so wrong with being honest? If you are truly here to find someone to spend the rest of your life with, you don't think this person will eventually find out these things? I'm not saying list all your bad attributes, I'm just saying don't lie about them. Be positive and creative... And yes, I can handle the truth!
